A Man Fast sounds pretty drastic. Sure some of them are complete bastards but has it really gotten so bad that we need to quit the entire species?
But think about it for a second. At some point, haven’t we all contemplated just giving up? Dreamt about a life alone with a couple of cats, free from unwanted dick pics and awkward Tinder encounters.
Natasha Scripture is living that dream (minus the cats). A couple of years ago she decided she’d had enough and swore off men for a while.
“A Man Fast is an opportunity to really look at ourselves and our behavioural patterns when it comes to our relationships, not only with men per se but with ourselves as women,” the author and humanitarian told bodyandsoul.com.au.
“I’d argue that our relationship with ourselves is the most important one and yet we don’t cultivate it as much as we should,” she said.
“It was really about connecting to myself on a deeper, spiritual level, and tapping into this mysterious, organic flow that only happened when I stopped trying to control everything.”
And in an effort to work on that vital relationship with herself, Natasha put everything else aside and set off on an Eat-Pray-Love-style spiritual healing journey around the world. The journey ended in a wedding on a beach in Zanzibar.
“It simply seemed like a commemorative way to conclude what turned out to be my spiritual reckoning across four continents, the author said.
Vows written and ring and dress bought, Natasha sat alone on the beach at sunrise and married herself.
She wears the ring to this day as a “reminder that I am enough on my own. I am whole and complete. I have everything I need to not only survive but to thrive.”
Although the ceremony marked the end of her fast, Natasha thinks the experience was invaluable. So invaluable in fact that she thinks everyone should try a Man Fast at some point.
“When we get to the point where we feel like we have lost our way in the search for romantic love, when we are not enjoying ourselves on the dating merry-go-round, when it feels like an exhausting chore and we feel like crap, well then it can only be beneficial to take a break in order to recalibrate ourselves,” she advises.
If going cold turkey sounds like too much, them she recommends indulging in small practices that “will help enhance our self-knowledge and make us feel more connected to ourselves.” Some of her favourite activities include journaling, mediation and getting outside. It really just comes down to taking some time to slow things down.
“Many of us are frantically active in a way that swallows up the existence of a meaningful inner life, almost as if we are afraid to have one,” Natasha said, “so do whatever you can do to slow down and really step into yourself. As the poet Anne Sexton once wrote, ‘Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.’”
For more about Natasha, make sure to check her website. She can also be found on Twitter and Instagram. To grab a copy of Man Fast, click here.
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